© She Controls 2018

@verbalgraffiti_ , London

"One the nicest, classiest & beautiful Dommes I've met, whose mere presence lights up the room."

What The Boys Say

December 29, 2018

How oh how can it almost be 2019 already? So here W/we are again, looking back on a what is a never a dull day in this FemDom life. As always, there are a select few who have played their part in trials and tribulations of this lifestyle. Some who have either received a pat on the head, virtual or real and well those who I’d happily leave neglected and rotting away on the peripherals of the scene, where they can no longer bother another Woman again. 

Firstly, ben (@loserboygimp). Do you have any idea how easy it is to humiliate you? Honestly, the insults ju...

September 1, 2018

So, when you search the #Findom hashtag on Twitter nowadays, what do you see? Another Retweet game? A Costa Coffee receipt? The warning from another disgruntled teen warning others that ‘richpaypigslave01’ is in actual fact a timewaster? Shock horror. Mix that in with some dog snapchat filters, middle fingers and a shout out to ‘DirkHooper’ (whoever that is!) and you have a scene that is a far cry from what I discovered and developed from in 2008.

The cold hard truth is, Findom is a very niche and rare fetish, most of what you see on social media isn’t find...

August 16, 2018

So, this blog post has stemmed from a couple of sessions recently. One online with one of My regular ‘drop & hide’ boys as I like to call them. The session consists of him waiting approximately 9 months- 1 year, drops over £1000 whilst talking to Me on kik messenger for a about an hour then radio silence for another year until he returns to do it all over again. I know nothing but his name, barely anything about his profession, earnings or status. W/we never actually use the word ‘findom.’ But it’s clear W/we are both enjoying it and at the end he thanks M...

June 5, 2018

So today I’m feeling compelled to write after what has been an insightful couple of weeks since My birthday. 

Birthdays. A day where We mark becoming a year older and as an owned piece of property, the most important day on your calendar. This isn’t Christmas, this isn’t Valentines, this isn’t having to make an apology of the highest degree. This is an exclusive day dedicated to your owner. A day purely about Her. 

Now, whether you are doing financially well for yourself or not, I always provide plenty of notice to this upcoming special day. Why is that? Is...

March 19, 2018

So, the weekend just passed set the stage for Me to pay My new boy @CLurkee a visit. After his first ever meet and experience of submission, he was aching to return and explore some more but this time, a lot closer to home. Nothing gets you boys making arrangements like the promise of a long night of domination. My boy was busy doing exactly that. From making his apartment spotless, to reserving a table at the Shangri La to booking flight tickets for unwanted co-habitants to disappear for the weekend.

This was to be only his second time so understandably ne...

December 18, 2017

So 2017 is nearly through, and usually a time for reflection. This Mistress’ mindset is no different. Another year in the scene has brought its share of highs and lows, in which many of you boys played your part. So I conclude the last 12 months with an open letter to those who crossed My path on this ongoing journey that W/we call ‘FemDom.’

Firstly. ‘respectful’ (@RespectfulSub01) It’s lovely to have you back after your break from the scene, let’s face it, it will always be a part of you and to supress it only results in negative outlets. Although you’ve h...